Life and Death

By Pam Durham
      C.A.R.E. Director

The first definition of life according to the online Merriam-Webster dictionary is: 

a : the quality that distinguishes a vital and functional being from a dead body.
b : a principle or force that is considered to underlie the distinctive quality of animate beings.
c : an organismic state characterized by capacity for metabolism, growth, reaction to stimuli, and reproduction.

The definition of death is:

a : a permanent cessation of all vital functions : the end of life.

b : an instance of dying.

This past week was an eventful one of both life and death for me.  My daughter was due with her third child on June 14^th, but due to some complications she was induced on May 22^nd.  I am now the proud grandmother of 6 grandchildren - five granddaughters and one grandson.  What a joy they all are.  They range in age from 12 to brand new!  The life they represent is far more than that listed in the definitions above.  They are the result of the life of Christ who brings us true life.  I am the proud mother (and mother-in-law) of their parents.  Because of choices I made over 40 years ago, I have children who are bringing up their children in the admonition of the Lord.  It is such a delight to see all they are learning about Jesus and who He is; to watch their character be shaped by their loving parents. What a blessing! 

But, in comes death.  I received a call from my Dad the day after my new granddaughter’s birth to tell me that my uncle had passed away.  Three days earlier he had had a massive heart attack.  Although they had him on life support, there was no sign of life.  They removed the life support May 23^rd.  In the midst of my rejoicing, I now am also grieving.  Being only eight years my senior, my uncle was more like a brother to me since I had spent most of my early childhood living with my grandparents and Mom.  He would have done anything for me, and he named his only child after me.  He smoked heavily and also drank consistently, but when we went to a restaurant, he would go to the non-smoking sections…just for me. 

But sadly, to my knowledge, he is also spiritually dead.  There was a point in his life also 40 years ago where he said he wanted nothing to do with God.  As far as I know, that never changed.  I have the blessed hope of seeing all my children and grandchildren in Heaven some day.  I also will see my Mom and my in-laws there as well.

I am reminded that there is so much more to life than just living here on earth.  Or as some say, just surviving.  Today, more than most, I know how truly blessed I am to have chosen eternal life for myself those many years ago.  My husband and I have chosen to leave an eternal legacy for our children.

What are you choosing?  Life – abundant life…or death – eternal separation from God?

Memorial Day

By Rayma Zugel
     Lead Center Director

We are coming up on Memorial Day. A day set aside to honor all those that died while serving our country, or have died since. But what is the history behind Memorial Day?

Memorial Day was originally called Decoration Day, from the early tradition of decorating graves with flowers, wreaths, and flags. It was first widely observed on May 30, 1868 to commemorate the sacrifices of Civil War soldiers. In 1873, New York was the first state to designate Memorial Day as a legal holiday. By the late 1800’s, many more cities and communities observed Memorial Day, and several states had declared it a legal holiday. After World War I, it became an occasion for honoring those who died in all American wars and then was more widely established as a National holiday.

In 1971, Congress passed the Uniform Monday Holiday Act and established that Memorial Day was to be celebrated on the last Monday of May. Memorial Day is celebrated at Arlington Cemetery each year with a ceremony in which a small American flag is placed on each grave.

It is important for Americans to take time to remember the sacrifices that bought their freedom. As of May 1, 2018, 624,031 Americans have died in all the wars that the United States has taken a part in, including Operation Freedom’s Sentinel and Operation Inherent Resolve that continue on in our war against terrorists.

For anyone that knows me, they know I have a special place in my heart for all Armed Services since my husband is a Vietnam Veteran. And I will never take away from the honor that is due to those that willing gave their life, or were willing to do so by going to war, to fight for the freedoms we enjoy today. But I also want us to remember the 45,151,389 lives that were taken by abortion (2014 statistics given by Guttmacher Institute). These lives will never get a chance to celebrate Memorial Day. These lives will never get the chance to experience the freedoms we have.

So this year for Memorial Day, remember those that fought for you and I, but also remember those little lives lost before their time. ❤

What's It Worth?

By Sue Chess
      Executive Director

Janet came into my office with a big happy grin and said happily “that was fun!”  She had just been with a client, so suspecting a great story I said, “Tell me more!”  Janet went on, “My client just told me her time with us is the highlight of her week.”  When I asked her to explain, Janet said that the client described losing her home during Hurricane Irma because the apartment building where she lived was destroyed by floodwater.  All of her things were gone and then she found Care Net.  The connections she needed were reestablished and she began taking parenting classes to rebuild her baby supplies.  Over time she has developed a close mentoring relationship with her volunteer as she has come in each week. This was what she meant by highlight.  But, it was not JUST the much needed stuff, but also the love and acceptance she’s found in “this place.”   Janet and I both had tears in our eyes as we reflected on our grateful client’s gift to us today.  This kind of feedback makes it all worth it.  Knowing the investment of time is not only saving lives but rescuing lives in so many other ways as well.

As we’ve just come through Volunteer Appreciation month, it has been pure joy to focus on the amazing people God has filled our Stuart and Port St. Lucie Centers with.  Trying to describe the hearts of love in our Centers leaves all of us a bit speechless—they really ARE that good!  So, when we came across an article describing the “Value of Volunteers in 2017” of course I read it! 

Did you know that there is a way to put a value on their work?  Until reading this article, we’d been measuring their worth way too low!  According to nonprofit leadership network Independent Sector, the estimated value of an hour of volunteer work rose to $24.69 per hour in 2017. 

Imagine hiring someone to teach, sort donated baby items, lead classes, peer counsel, enter data, solicit donations, provide ultrasounds, schedule medical staff, provide STI testing, and process a bulk-mail.  Now imagine paying them $24.69 per hour/per person for all of these services on a budget that’s already stretched thin! 

Our volunteers sign in and out when they come to Care Net.  This keeps our insurance company happy, but it also gives us how many hours have been donated.  We tracked 4900 hours in our two Centers in 2017.  At $24.69/hour it would have cost us an incredible $120,941.00 just last year to pay our Volunteers.

 

Janet’s story at the beginning measured the “eternal metric” of what the investment into our client’s lives accomplishes.  The Independent Sector has measured the “earthly metric.”  Either way, we’ve managed to show you just how deeply in debt we are to the wonderful men and women who do so much here at Care Net.

The next time someone tells you they volunteer, tell them “thank you,” would you?  They really are “a work of heart!”